Tips to Encourage Decision-Making
As parents, we’ve all been there: standing in the kitchen, holding up two dinner options, while our child stares at us like we’ve just asked them to solve a difficult mathematical equation. Whether it’s choosing an outfit for school, deciding which extracurriculars to join, or weighing college options, decision-making can feel overwhelming for students and for parents who want to guide them without micromanaging. At Landmark, we recognize that decision-making is an essential life skill, one that helps students grow as leaders and stewards of God’s purpose for their lives. Partnering with you, we aim to encourage your child to confidently make choices that reflect their unique gifts and talents.
Here are two simple, practical ways you can help develop this skill at home:
Start Small and Stay Consistent
Big decisions can feel daunting, but learning starts with smaller, everyday choices. Give your child opportunities to practice decision-making regularly. Instead of asking, “What do you want for lunch?” (cue endless indecision), offer two or three specific options: “Would you like a turkey sandwich, a peanut butter wrap, or leftovers from last night?” Providing manageable choices helps your child develop confidence while teaching them to weigh options. Encourage them to explain why they chose what they did. “Why the turkey sandwich?” It might be as simple as “It’s my favorite,” but over time, this habit will teach them to think critically and articulate their reasoning which is a skill they’ll need for bigger decisions later in life.
Model the Process (Mistakes and All!)
Kids learn as much by watching us as they do from our words. When making family decisions, involve your child in the process. For example, if you’re planning a vacation, let them help research destinations or vote on activities. Talk them through your thought process: “I’m leaning toward the beach because it’s relaxing, but the mountains might be more budget-friendly.” Be open about your mistakes too. If a decision didn’t pan out the way you’d hoped, model how to handle it with grace: “I thought trying that new restaurant would be fun, but the food wasn’t great. Next time, I’ll check reviews more carefully.” This transparency shows that mistakes are part of learning, and it fosters resilience when they face their own missteps.
Each small choice equips your student with the confidence and wisdom to face life’s bigger challenges. It’s also an opportunity to point them back to Christ as the ultimate guide in all decisions. Pray with them, encourage them to seek biblical wisdom, and remind them that God’s plans for them are good, even when the way forward isn’t clear. At Landmark, we’re here to support you as you raise leaders who love God and others with their whole being. Together, we can help your child become the thoughtful, confident decision-maker God has called them to be. And who knows? Maybe one day, they’ll even decide on dinner without hesitation.
